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Tired of swiping? This app hosts parties and events to take dating offline

Tired of swiping? This app hosts parties and events to take dating offline
Bring your single friends and get meeting people in real life (Picture: Inner Circle)

Dating has changed so much in the last few decades that it’s almost unrecognisable from the ‘courting’ our parents knew.

But while swiping to find the perfect match widens your pool of prospects, it can also be draining; from endless digital small-talk to the ghosting and bad behaviour that the anonymity of apps enables.

Covid lockdowns have affected things too, with research from dating app Inner Circle finding that 80% of singles want to meet people in real life more than pre-pandemic.

The survey also revealed that a third of singles think approaching people in real life is less common now, and a whopping 87% feel that meeting someone at a singles party is more socially acceptable than before.

To help break dry spells and get you back in the mingling game, Inner Circle offers dating with a difference, hosting events in London that bring single people together in ‘spectacular, non-cringey ways’.

From cocktail masterclasses to pop-up beach parties and entire food festivals full of single people, Inner Circle’s parties take the guess-work out of approaching people IRL.

The dating app hosts all sorts of events across the city’s best venues (Picture: Inner Circle)

There are a number of reasons to try the offline-focused app. A team of real people screen new members (for safety, effort, and mindset), so you know you’ll be surrounded by likeminded, unattached people looking for something serious.

Even if you don’t meet your next flame, Inner Circle’s parties are worth it just for the experience.

Among the meet-ups currently in the works is a festival-style event featuring DJs, cocktails, and games, as well as wine tasting and soirees across the city’s best venues.

All you need to do to be a part of the fun is join Inner Circle for free here, grab a ticket to your favourite event, then turn up and prepare to be swept off your feet.

Although it’s still technically dating via an app, you’ll be able to gauge connections in person, meaning sparks can fly right off the bat.

Download the Inner Circle app here.

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Indigenous duo aims to create good medicine and good vibes only with online dating event | CBC News

Indigenous duo aims to create good medicine and good vibes only with online dating event | CBC News

Dating can feel daunting but when you add the impacts of intergenerational trauma into the mix it can become exhausting, say two friends who are trying to eliminate all that stress with a virtual snag fest. 

The cheeky title implies that the upcoming Zoom sessions are meant to be fun. The concept started as a joke between Deanna StandingCloud and Victoria Marie but as they thought about Indigenous networking, the talks became serious. 

“It’s such a hard time to get out there and meet new people,” said Marie, who is a tribal member of Sisseton-Wahpeton Oyate and lives in Minnesota.

The pair met when they were both pregnant and developed a friendship while they organized an Indigenous wellness retreat together. Both work in the Indigenous wellness field and organize other events centred on Indigenous healing. 

StandingCloud, a citizen of Red Lake Nation in Minnesota, is a powwow MC, a bingo caller and a wellness advocate for Indigenous communities. 

She said dating is yet another task on an already long list that includes child-rearing and healing from her own hurts and said a lot of single Indigenous women can understand that. Then when you have a partner who wants help dealing with their own trauma, it can be exhausting.

“I get tired of holding it all together, so I would love for men to be medicine for their communities,” said StandingCloud.

Marie’s company, Indigenous Lotus, is hosting the event on Zoom. There will be two 90-minute sessions where participants will break out into speed dating rounds and will play connection games, like the old-time dating game shows.

Victoria Marie is the owner of Indigenous Lotus, which is hosting the Indigenous speed-dating event. (Submitted by Victoria Marie)

Jane Meader, a Mi’kmaw grandmother from Unama’ki, said in dating, Indigenous people are asked to be good medicine to one another because of a responsibility to the community. Ensuring women feel safe in dating has always been a part of Mi’kmaw culture, she said. 

“Women were very helpful to one another and treated each other with kindness,” said Meader. 

She said today’s sexual objectification of Indigenous women is a foreign concept and that traditionally in Mi’kmaw families, women held the power. They chose who they wanted to marry and a potential partner would have to prove to her and her family that he was worth marrying. When they married, he was committing to the woman’s language, culture, clan and family, and it was also within her power to decide if she wanted a divorce. 

Mi’kmaw grandmother Jane Meader says Mi’kmaw women always cared for one another and their safety was always important. (Tom Ayers/CBC)

Meader said anyone considering dating should ask if their potential partner loves, honours and respects themselves, other genders and Creator.

“It’s about us being better human beings, first before anything else,” said Meader. 

Marie said she hopes Indigenous women can have fun at their online connection event and that for men, being in a circle with healthy Indigenous women will encourage them to seek healing for intergenerational trauma.

“I believe in bringing people together with the same intention of having fun, and connecting is expanding our ability to heal one another,” said Marie.

The online event will also centre on creating new friendships and participants can either hold a yellow ribbon for friendship or a red ribbon for romantic interests.